my kind of friendship

"Friendship is one mind in two bodies." Mencius is lucky to have pondered on this thought, and to have found a friend as he define it, or burdened to have found a friend whose interests and point of views differ from yours and judges you almost everytime.

Correct me if I'm wrong, sometimes you need a person who'll only listen because time will come that you are going to seek for their advise. But there are people who, could be just overconcerned, who will generalize you as a person, tag you, and you respect it, and you think of giving some time for yourself to think about its legitimacy, but they unstopably resort to moralize you and in turn demoralize you. And you found yourself sunken, and with your thin threshold, you can't help it but hate the person for sucking all the patience in you.

I guess, the other party can't relate to your state of being. You humble yourself, and think that you might be a little immature and incapable for his way of thinking and wisdom. So, you refrain from confiding to that person, think of things your way, find another person's thought, who could instead inspire you to correct your mistakes and tell you his objections not in a harsh way.

Filling a bottle is different from filling a glass. We have to be sensitive enough to see the difference between the two. But people are different from each other, and so you keep your cool, as much as you can. Specially if you cannot handle confrontations well. Just do what you think is right, and observe what the other person is saying to be the right thing to do and both learn from each other by your examples.

"I learn most things from my friends. I thank them for keeping their cool, accepting me as what I am, and pep me when I'm ready and I ask for it. I've seen a lot of positive things in them so I apply it to myself"

"I guess, I have become almost like them, non-confrontational, no whims, no drama, just being oneself and keeping not to offend anyone. But I'm not saying that I don't and didn't offend anyone anymore at all. I know I have a lot of rooms for improvement, and sometimes offend a person without me knowing it. Johari still speaks true to me and I guess to everyone else."

Of course, you appreciate all his concern and value all the things that you shared. But sometimes, you get tired but it doesn't mean to say that you are leaving. Personal differences has been at the same time a blessing and a challenge. A blessing to be able to enjoy what you desire without conflict and a challenge to understand the unacceptable and the unbecoming. Despite your differences, you know there is still a thing called compromising. You may not be the same exact person, and has contradicting points but you don't have to end and forget what you've already built. Friendship is a thing shared by at least two individuals, so you don't lose your individuality. On the other hand, in one way or another, similarity in interests and closeness in beliefs indeed bond two people, but, uniformity in all things and aspects loses the color and dimishes the meaning.